My notes for this session are really brief compared to the others. We had a long gap between meeting while I waited seemingly endlessly to be paid (as per usual), but thankfully I’d had tons of homework to complete and talk about.
Observations one or both of us made about my last set of answers is that I really want (need) to find a culture/subculture of others who ask the “why” questions and want to understand (rather than just shoving through things mindlessly or not caring).
My coach addressed again the need for me to address my nagging negative thoughts. If I continued being concerned, lacking confidence in succeeding in this career change endeavor, questioning, it just kicks up doubts and limits me.
The funny thing about me is that I’m optimistic inside, I plan and expect to get my way in the end, but I think I’m so psychologically beaten down by personal and professional failures in the last decade that I often believe the universe isn’t going to allow me happiness or success. I know I’ll change, I know I’ll aim for whats good for me, I just have long established doubts I’ll get what I want in the end.
After making my possible careers mindmap I really felt worried that in order to do the things I’m interested in and would like to pursue, I would need to pursue more education or do internships and other free jobs to gain the experience and qualifications to be hired for jobs I want. Stacy had long ago told me that many people transition into what they want without more higher education. For me what I want and what I know I’m good at aren’t reflected in my resume.
As Stacy said “the job goes to the person who can demonstrate the most value.” Complete sense. So, how do I do that?
- 10 Most important skills
- 10 Least wanted skills
- Mission Statement
- Roast Toast
- Goals editing
When I reviewed the list of skills my coach had sent I was pleasantly surprised with the variety. I thought of skills in terms of concrete things one would put on a resume (Microsoft Office, Pilots license). It was nice to see that skills don’t have to fit that simple mold.
We also discussed my personal mission statement structure, something that weirds me out almost as much as the peak experiences homework, since it seems too personal and puts me in the vulnerable position of feeling like I have to justify what I write to others, if they disagree. Kinda of a silly hangup, I know – especially given the things I’m willing to write in this blog… 🙂
My next bit of homework was to write what would be said about me or by me, at the end of a long, successful, happy career. eek! I would refuse to attend my own wedding if it required me speaking my vows out loud in front of an audience. It’s so uncomfortable. The way my mind works is that if I write this I will think and feel as though I’m actually there, being toasted or roasted or obituaried and how would I feel about it. I’d be embarrassed and uncomfortable. I’d likely cry. Um..no, not so sure I’ll be able to do this one, I told my coach.
I’ll try. (cough cough. Oh, hey! Now sounds like a GREAT time to start that time consuming and distracting blog! cough cough)
My last bit of homework was to look at my goals form and choose the top 5 items in each category that are important to me in this career quest.
I didn’t specifically write down my major learning point for today, but “negative thinking kicks up doubt, limits and gremlins” is circled 5 times, so I’m guess that was it. 🙂