I’m forever not remembering to do the prep-sheet prior to each visit, so when I sent it before the 10th session, I also sent my notes on peak/flow state activities, for which I still couldn’t come up with a list.
Generally the happiest I am is when I’m daydreaming or doing/buying something new (and the last can be attributed to endorphins). Then again, if I could be a buyer for clothes/homes maybe that would be the happiness ticket.
Must run – work!
My session followup email from Stacy outlined my homework (letting go, values, goal form), as always, and included attachments including the copyrighted goal form I would fill in and we would use to put together my overall picture and goal.
She also re-stated the strengths evident from my accomplishments exercise that she’d listed for me on the 10th: “strong, determined, resilient, persistent, funny, highly intelligent, independent, brave, searching, trying to do the right thing, expressive, flourishing interests, super creative, intellectually diverse, resourceful, endure & thrive, adventurous, always learning, visionary, curious, inquisitive, imaginative, see possibilities others can’t. This is the truth and it’s very valuable!”
Aww shucks, Stacy.
What do I need to let go of?
I have this form sitting in front of me, but it’s not filled in. I also cannot find an email where I answered the questions. Odd, considering I have SO much to let go of.
From: “Ignacio, Andrea” <>
Date: Thu, December 13, 2012 3:29 am
I’m working on the Values Exercise first since it’s the simplest…
I feel uncertain whether I’m supposed to answer the questions regarding work, professional stuff, or just in general. I’m coming up with a lot of personal answers and pet peeves and ‘my stuff’, you know? It doesn’t feel professionally oriented. What am I saying? I feel like I’m creating a whiny “I don’t like people and want a perfect atmosphere where everybody does what I want” scenario, which isn’t really what I want, it’s just a reflection of this place, if that makes sense. Is that common for clients?
Sent: Thursday, December 13, 2012 6:04 PM
To: Ignacio, Andrea
Subject: RE: question
It might be easier if you answer each question in two parts A) personal perspective B) professional perspective. Go with what is true for you and we’ll sort it out.
To answer your question, yes, you are certainly not alone when answering with a huge influence from your current work environment. (Other clients are the same) While this should be honored, we must also dig deeper to the desired tasks and content of the work because ultimately, a happy shiny environment won’t keep you happy forever if you dislike the day to day tasks. Make sense?
Thanks for asking! Stacy
Thank you… It all makes sense. I’m still struggling with the section on values.
What if I know what my values are, but can’t really explain simply why? Or if my values didn’t come from happy times, but from lessons learned? Can I skip the “happy” step?
My summer in Maui was a great time….the weather never varied from perfect, it was low stress, the food was healthy AND tasty, I could wear minimal clothes. It felt right and not a constant struggle against people and the planet. But it’s hard to find work there. On the other hand my 6 years in Dallas were hell on earth. The WORST environment for me, but plenty o’work. I can’t afford to be professionally and personally content, if it doesn’t pay the bills, but I refuse to work in a place that makes me feel sick again. Also value-wise I can’t get myself to put CASH as a value priority. I want stability, freedom and beauty, but not cash just to be rich. Then again if I won the lottery or a billionaire asked to support me I’d drop everything and go with the flow…. Nobody’s perfect. lol.
Hmmm.. this is just a long vent. I just felt stress trying to answer the questions. I over think everything.
What do I make a point to do/not do?
- buy quality, even if expensive
- be aware of the wider affects of actions and how others are affected
- make sure I’m clear with everyone (explain myself)
- follow instructions accurately
What angers/upsets me?
- When people don’t notice/value others reactions or needs.
- Not having expectations met.
- At others irrational reactions
- When I can’t explain myself or others won’t listen
- Being teased
- Stupid people in otherwise obvious situations
- Having people/socializing forced on me
- Following ridiculous rules
- Cleaning house/doing dishes 🙂
- When others cause inconvenience for me (I’m talking big willful obstructions by people who don’t pay attention to the damage they do)
- Not being taken at my word/believed
- People who cannot follow instructions
- Secretiveness, not knowing
When am I happy?
- When I leave work (just a reflection of a 800 hour week, and there actually being plants and light in my apartment)
- When I’ve bought something beautiful, classic and permanent
- Organizing and making something more efficient/simple
- With a really good book
- When I’m fit and my clothes fit properly
- When I wake early and feel fresh and alert
Really? Three toed tree sloth. They’re odd looking, but elegant in their movement, deliberate in a beautiful way but seem cuddly and harmless all the same. (But people see those 3 inch claws and don’t mess with them, anyway) 🙂
Reading. Decorating/rearranging furniture. Dreaming/daydreaming.
What determines my value?
Me… Before – depression. Now – defiance.
Two more peak experiences?
You’re killing me with this question…..